The Biggest Battle in Leadership

by | May 16, 2022 | Church Leadership, Pastoral Burnout

I’m convinced the biggest battle in leadership is often within the emotions of a leader – and equally powerful – the emotions of those we lead.

The biggest battle in leadership is a battle against emotions.

The hardest part of leadership is not making the difficult decision of what to do with a team member that is no longer a fit, for example. That’s usually an easy decision. Most leaders can make that one in their sleep.

It’s the emotional side of pulling the trigger on the decision. It is wrestling through the guilt and agony; knowing you are impacting someone’s livelihood. And it is the pushback from the decision and realizing it will likely bring turmoil for weeks and months to come.


The difficult part of leadership is not figuring out a strategy moving forward.


Or coming up with three to four goals you hope to accomplish in the next 90 days. Sure doing so can be a challenge, and some people are wired to do so more than others, but you can read a book, attend a conference, or get coaching to help you with things like that. (Leadership Network helps pastors with these types of things every day. It’s partly why I write this blog.)

But dealing with the emotions of change – whether the leader’s emotions or the emotions of the people having to implement the change – that’s where the greatest battles reside.


In my experience, the emotions of leadership are where the biggest battles of leadership will be fought. 


A hard part of leadership is dealing with self-doubt on days when your emotions cause you to question “am I enough of a leader to do what I’ve been tasked to do?”

The harder part of leadership is pushing through times of fear when you cannot seem to muster the courage to take one more risk.

The harder part of leadership is trusting your gut so that you are willing to stand by faith with what you know you have been called to do – even when there are plenty of voices telling you it won’t work and you are crazy to proceed.

One more thing – The harder part of leadership is pushing past the fear of an unknown future – even if you know intellectually that if God called you here He will equip you here. Emotions of uncertainty seem to scream louder than truth at times.


And the harder part of leadership is dealing with other people’s emotions and their reactions to change and your leadership.


Have you ever witnessed someone express an emotional reaction to change? (Perhaps in an ALL CAPS email or an unsigned scribbled note on the Sunday bulletin – in the upper right-hand corner with a frowny face and an arrow pointing at your circled name? Sorry to be so specific as if that’s happened to me.


The emotions of leadership are real. 


I wish I could tell you there was an easy answer to battling the emotions of leadership. In over 30 years as a leader, I haven’t found one yet.

I have learned I must guard my heart above all things. (Proverbs 4:23) I must allow truth to preach at my soul to “be strong and have courage” (Joshua 1:9) in the midst of despair. I must surround myself with people who believe in me and can encourage me. I must be humble enough to admit when my emotions have overwhelmed me – whether in the moment, on a particular day, or in a season.

Every leader should have people in their life with whom they can be honest and who know them well enough to speak into their life when needed – even if at the time it isn’t something the leader wants to hear. By the way, I need to be vulnerable before people, but I am not saying I should “freak out” my team by causing them to think I’m emotionally unstable. (Thankfully I’m writing this on a pretty good day.) The team needs to believe the leader is strong enough to move forward.

Of course, I also must be conscious of the emotions of those I’m trying to lead. With the realization every change invokes an emotion – good or bad, I can better lead change without seeming to walk over people. A leader who is aware of how people “feel” is more likely to be supported in leading change. People want to know the leader cares.


Emotions are a force to be reckoned with – and some days (and seasons) more than others.


But I’m convinced the leader who succeeds long-term will often be the one that can push through the natural emotional war of leadership.

Though not the purpose of this post, I might recommend my pastor friend Steve Cuss’ recently book “Managing Leadership Anxiety: Yours and Theirs“.

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Ron Edmondson

I am CEO of Leadership Network. I was previously pastor at Immanuel Baptist Church, a church leader and the planter of two churches. I am passionate about planting churches but also helping established churches thrive. I love assisting pastors and those in ministry think through leadership, strategy, and life. My specialty is organizational leadership, so in addition to my role as a pastor, as I have time, I consult with church and ministry leaders. I have more than 35 years of leadership experience, mostly as a self-employed business owner, and have been in full-time ministry for over 15 years. I have successfully led the restart of one church and the planting of two churches, and now we are seeing God’s hand tremendously in church revitalization. I have a seminary masters and a master’s in organizational leadership. I also once helped lead (as an elected official) a mid-sized city, where I served as Vice Mayor and Finance Chair. The greatest times for me are with my wife Cheryl and our amazing adult sons, Jeremy, his wife Mary, and our youngest son Nate. Over 20 years ago, I founded a non-profit ministry called Mustard Seed Ministry, which provides devotional resources, conducts family, marriage, and parenting, and church leadership seminars. My INTJ personality on the Myers-Briggs indicator means I have big ideas, I love creative and critical thinking and I love to see progress. I am usually around people but crave downtime. For years I was usually training for either a half or full marathon. Running was my most productive thinking time. Knee problems in recent years have caused me to stop running, but I’m committed to finding the time I need to fuel my mind, body, and spirit. I write several times weekly on leadership, church, and family. To sign up for my blog on a reader or by email, click HERE. I do interact with my readers, so feel free to contact me. You can email me at am also on Google+ at, Twitter at and Facebook at My devotional site is