Four Important Reminders for Pastors Dealing with Mental Health Issues

by | Aug 19, 2020 | Church Leadership, Coaching, Pastoral Burnout

Mental health issues in general and burnout in particular are real issues for pastors and leaders as we minister in our complex world. This has only been magnified by the added stress of a global pandemic. Many pastors today speak of burnout or unusual stress from our anxious times.

We can’t ignore these issues. It’s easy to say, “I would never struggle with this” without realizing how much people actually do.

This topic is so important that this past December the Wheaton College Billy Graham Center, in partnership with the Wheaton College School of Psychology, Counseling, and Family Therapy, hosted a GC2 Summit on Facing Hard Truths and the Challenges of Pastoral Ministry. I want to share four ways to think about these issues.

First, pastoral balance is a myth, but seasons without balance almost always destroy.

Ministry is not the kind of role where we always get to create the balance we would like in our lives. We should establish some regular routines and seek to prioritize our lives in the order of disciple, husband, father, and then pastor.

That’s great in theory, but it doesn’t work that way in everyday life. There are times when that phone call comes: a tragedy has happened, and you have to switch those things around, and your routine is rerouted.

You don’t plan four funerals in one week, but sometimes they happen. You certainly don’t plan for a pandemic and both the new decisions you face and the fallout whatever decisions you make brings. Learning to say no when possible can help, but there are times when you have to drop everything and go.

Pastoring comes in waves. Waves come in, and waves go out. If you’re always at high tide, your ministry won’t last. Or to change the metaphor, we need both a thermometer and a thermostat in our lives to help us with the ebb and flow of ministry.

The thermometer says, “I’m burning a fever, doing too much, too fast, too soon.” It alerts us when we are about to crash. We also need a thermostat to help regulate our lives consistently.

Who in your life monitors your temperature? You can’t do it alone. Who in your life helps you turn it down when you’re running too hot? This is where accountability comes in. There are three ways this should happen.

One, you need people involved in your life personally – close friends who truly know you. Two, you need someone who’s a mentor or a spiritual figure speaking into your life. Three, you need a boss. If you don’t have one, you need some sort of organized board.

You aren’t accountable to everyone about everything. People will expect things from you all the time. I’m not accountable to every person who says to me, “Well, I think you should do this.” But we need specific people who are for us as we minister to help us.

Second, pastoral burnout, flameouts, washouts, or walkouts are all important realities.

Pastoral burnout is when a pastor or staff member just can’t take it anymore. The temperature is burning too hot and there was neither a thermometer to notice nor a thermostat to adjust.

A flameout is the worst version of that. In burnout, you might step away, but in flameout, it all burns to the ground on the way out. A washout could be because things come in our lives that don’t jibe with the qualifications of a minister or don’t match areas of character in our lives. A walkout means we decide we would rather do something else than continue in the pressure cooker of ministry.

Unfortunately, there are times when these realities come together in the tragic reality of pastors or staff members who contemplate or commit suicide. How do we avoid these? We start by admitting the third thing I want to share.

Third, finding help is harder when you’re a pastor.

Sometimes, we hurt ourselves here because we don’t reach out for help when we know we need it. Sometimes, we feel guilty because we think we aren’t “spiritual enough” to make it without help.

Jesus already walked on the earth, and you aren’t Jesus. But it’s also something people put on us because of unrealistic expectations. I wrote an article called “Six Ways Pastors Struggle: You Are Not Alone” in which I point out how pastors and staff members who isolate themselves when they need help is disastrous. I cite that 23 percent of pastors in a LifeWay Research survey indicate they have personally struggled with mental illness of some kind.

About half said it was diagnosed, while the other half said it wasn’t diagnosed. This begs the question, why was this not diagnosed? The question of who helps the helpers is a key question for us not to miss.

It’s time to normalize counseling as a good thing. If you need help losing weight, you see a nutritionist or get a personal trainer. If your child struggles in school, you get a tutor. If you want to preach better, you seek out resources and conferences.

But we still see counseling as something for extreme cases, especially concerning leaders. You need people who encourage you along the way, and sometimes that means a skilled counselor. Rick and Kay Warren have helped us all with this. They talked openly about suicide after their son took his life.

Fourth, mental health issues and mental illness are realities for pastors.

Pastors are people, too! Do we acknowledge that in our own lives? If 23 percent of pastors struggle with mental illness, that’s about one out of four. That means one out of four reading this article. If you’re a pastor of a church with a larger staff, it could mean one out of four of your staff.

Is there a safe place for you? Or, should you be out of pastoral ministry because of your struggles? Some people would say the latter. I don’t agree. I think part of the reality is we can struggle, and sometimes as pastors, we struggle in public.

Pastors, our sermons can break the stigma about these things. I recently preached on anxiety from I Corinthians 7. I mentioned how some anxiety is a normal part of life’s struggle. I added that if for anyone listening anxiety has become all-consuming, talk to a pastor because we want to help you get counseling for that.

Sermons break stigmas.

Sometimes, the answer to an issue is not a longer quiet time, it’s to get help from someone God has gifted in this area. We can’t ignore this issue anymore. Let’s encourage one another, and not be afraid to seek help.

Ed Stetzer is executive director of the Wheaton College Billy Graham Center, serves as a dean at Wheaton College, and publishes church leadership resources through Mission Group. This article originally ran at The Exchange and The Exchange team helped with this article.

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Ed Stetzer

Ed Stetzer, Ph.D., holds the Billy Graham Chair of Church, Mission, and Evangelism at Wheaton College and serves as Executive Director of the Billy Graham Center. He has planted, revitalized, and pastored churches, trained pastors and church planters on six continents, holds two masters degrees and two doctorates, and has written dozens of articles & books. Previously, he served as Executive Director of LifeWay Research. Stetzer is a contributing editor for Christianity Today, a columnist for Outreach Magazine, and is frequently cited or interviewed in news outlets such as USAToday and CNN. He is the Executive Editor of The Gospel Project, a curriculum used by more than one million individuals each week. Stetzer is also Executive Editor of Facts & Trends Magazine, a Christian leadership magazine with a circulation of more than 70,000 readers. In 2015, he began serving as the co-host of the BreakPoint This Week radio program with John Stonestreet. He also serves as Visiting Professor of Research and Missiology at Trinity Evangelical Divinity School, Visiting Research Professor at Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary, and has taught at many other colleges and seminaries.

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