Many of the today’s women’s magazines were started during the time of the Women’s Lib movement in the 70’s. I noticed, while shopping last week, that most had covers with captions that dealt with attracting, keeping, and pleasing men. Ironic, isn’t it? Women, who supposedly don’t need men, only talk about men.
The pressures on men in today’s culture are immense. They exponentially increase when beginning a church plant, as you all know: attendance, finances, relationships, etc., to name only a few. They will vary as time goes by, but as a wise man once told my husband, “The problems never go away, they just rotate.” As a Pastor’s wife, you may or may not know all that is going on – your husband may try to shield you – so exercising a little extra sensitivity at certain times is important.
With this in mind, I proffer the following. Never argue on a Saturday night….no matter what.
I know it’s hard to believe that a man of God can be irritating, but it does happen. The amazing thing is that he can be most annoying on Saturdays. Don’t ask me why, I have no idea. It’s certainly not me, I’m always pleasant. Anyway, I don’t rise to the bait no matter what. I bite my tongue realizing that, “…be at peace with all men…” is meant for me. Preparation for Sunday is an all-week thing, but Saturday night is crucial. I’ll promise myself that on Monday morning we are going to have a talk….guess what – by Monday, I’ve forgotten all about it! So, keep Saturday & Sunday morning sacrosanct. There are bigger things at stake than airing some petty grievance. My husband has a plaque in his office that reads, “Get over it” – a message we all need to internalize sometimes.
Maintaining focus is what’s important. The eternal destiny of the people God brings into our realm of reference is much more important than anything else happening at the moment. With this in mind, I do everything in my power to make Saturday a stress free day.
That’s how I please the man in my life and he may not even realize it.